simulated sex or simulated rape?

When I first heard the chatter about Akon's concert in Trinidad and his on-stage simulated sex with a minor, I thought the performance was a repeat of the routine bump, grind, and wine that goes on at numerous dance hall and/or hip hop concerts and that Akon probably had no idea that the concert-goer, Danah Alleyne, was underage (and perhaps he didn't). But after reading about Verizon's decision to drop the singer from their annoying cell-phone ad and to no longer support Akon and Gwen Stefani's tour (due in part to the efforts of groups like What About Our Daughters), I decided to take a look at the offensive video on you-tube (yep, it's still up there).

To my surprise and dismay, the performance looked more like a simulated rape than an erotic dance! Regardless of the girl's age, she does not appear to be a willing participant as Akon throws her around the stage and gyrates violently on top of her numerous times (and the girl makes noises that sound like screams!) then leaves her tossled body on the stage floor as he walks off. What the *%&@?!

It doesn't matter how she was dressed or whether or not she should or should not have been allowed into the club or if she was dancing along at first. It doesn't even matter that she's rumored to be a preacher's daughter! When is it ever acceptable to publicly humiliate a woman (any woman) in the way that Akon publicly humiliated that girl?! I'm sure she didn't imagine a "dance" would entail her head being banged around and her body being assaulted in that way. Why are people blaming HER for such treatment? What if she had been eighteen and thus legally entitled to enter the club? Would Akon's behavior have been given a second glance? Of course not because any girl fan who agrees to dance with a superstar is "asking" for whatever she gets. Sounds just like the logic used to blame victims for being raped, doesn't it?